Yesterday, I was invited out for a
drink with my work colleagues. I don’t drink alcohol, so I stuck with Diet
Coke, which I jokingly referred to as “virgin Coke and Run on the Rocks; and
Diet” which got at least a couple of chuckles, but obviously I wasn’t expecting
the entire pub to be rolling around with laughter.
I’m the type of person who doesn’t
do nightclubs. I tried it once before and hated it. I’ve been to a couple of
concerts before, but even then I made sure to be seated on the sides not
standing in the middle to watch the band playing. I don’t do dancing in a
crowded room, it’s just not how I’m wired. I can sit here typing out the
specifics on how my mind works and why dancing is not something I’m instantly
drawn to doing the moment of stepping into a nightclub.
The gathering wouldn’t be in a
nightclub, however, but instead in a pub. Well, over the past few years, I’ve
developed by a staggering amount. If I were to stand next to myself from the
past and compare notes, I’d certainly notice the difference in confidence. I
would definitely describe myself as a completely different person compared to
that of who I was only but two years ago.
I’ve not stepped foot into that
atmosphere since that nightclub, and so it’s only fair that I keep my
open-minded attitude and give a night out with my work colleagues – people I
get along with every single day – a chance. A second chance at a night out.
Because of how much I’ve changed, maybe it’ll be a different experience. Same
atmosphere, different way of processing it.
As the night drew closer and it
was nearing the time for me to climb into my car, I did feel a little nervous,
but I didn’t let it consume me as it would have done. Before, I dreaded even
the thought of stepping foot into that atmosphere, so I automatically,
instantly, refused to go out. This time, I may have been nervous, but I had the
power to push on forward. I had the ability to keep those nerves from getting
the better of me and keep me grounded at home.
The pub was crowded from the
beginning of the night, and gradually became so packed it was difficult to move
properly. There were so many people, it was a complete battering against my
senses. I couldn’t hear myself think. I couldn’t concentrate properly on what
people were saying, on what was going on around me, I could feel myself not
smiling; not enjoying the moment. It transpired that I wasn’t the only person
who wished to be out of there – so we moved to a different venue.
In the second venue, the loud
music was even louder, but the people were fewer, and so it was something I
could see myself getting used to eventually. My work colleagues were talking
about their lives and dancing to the music, and so were the strangers, of which
there seemed to be more and more entering the pub. I found myself sitting at a
table, not doing a thing.
I tried interacting with my
colleagues. I spoke to them, but only for a minute or so before that
conversation naturally died off, rendering me once again just sitting by the
table, not entirely enjoying the atmosphere.
A sit down meal. A one-on-one
meal. A pub where only my work colleagues were in and no strangers; where we
can not only choose the music we play, but also set the volume to the level we
can at least have a decent conversation with. All better nights out than where
I was. The second venue was once again
just as tortuous to the senses as the first. And it didn’t take long before I
had reached my limit. I snapped. I had to get out of there. I had to leave.
I didn’t want to leave because my
work colleagues were happy that someone like me were out and about, and so
leaving would feel like I was disappointing them. I had reached the unrelenting
paradox where I wanted to leave the venue because I was too nervous to stay,
but also didn’t want to leave because I was too nervous to leave. I was stuck
in the middle of two mental blocks – both of which were being constantly
battered by the coherent nonsense all around me.
I had learnt that, whilst I had
certainly changed from who I was a couple of years ago, I hadn’t changed as
much as I thought I had. At least I tried, though. At least I gave it a second
chance. At least I ventured forth into the world I once hated in an attempt to
make peace with it, and enjoy myself, not sit down, unmoving, with a face that
was ever growing sadder and sadder with each passing song. Maybe in a couple of
years’ time I’d try it again.
On Monday of this week, it turns
out that I needn’t have been worried about leaving early because I wasn’t
enjoying myself; they accepted it wasn’t my atmosphere. If and when they
organise another night out, I probably won’t be attending, not because the
night out is actually bad, but purely on the basis that it just isn’t my scene.
I’d rather be sitting at home, wrapped up in my duvet, watching a good movie.
Thanks for reading
Antony Hudson
(TonyHadNouns)
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