We’ve all been there; in that
moment that would never be created again. Whether it was unintentionally set up
via a running joke, or a series of fortunate events coinciding perfectly to
create one sudden surprise. These moments are commonly shared between either
two of you or as part of a group, and of course, cannot be retold to simulate
the same effect.
It’s those moments we can’t help
but want to tell someone who wasn’t there, so they could hear about what
happened, but there’s one problem: You can’t retell it. You can attempt to
spread the word, but once you’ve gotten to the punchline, you’re met with only
but blank stares and/or confusion because they simply don’t understand what you’ve
just said and any attempts to make them understand requires a history lesson
about running jokes and these precise events. Unfortunately, giving this lesson
only makes the listener bored and potentially even more confused, but which at
that point the effect has worn off completely and you resort to the only
sentence you can in to justify your failure at telling your story: “you should
have been there.”
We’ve all either made the attempt
to tell a story or have been on the receiving end of a badly told one, only to
end with those famous words. It’s mainly our curiosity which drives us to make
the other person tell that story, because of course you would want to know what’s
making them laugh so hard the next morning. Whilst on the giving end, sometimes
we’ve uttered the words before even beginning the story – some people accept
that and move on, other people take the risk and push us to tell them what
happened, only to end inevitably, in a mess of words and emotions, making them
realise they should have moved on upon discovering this was a story they knew
before being told it, wouldn’t be one they’d understand fully.
I can fill this article with a
story that happened of which you definitely should have been there to
appreciate why, for us two, was so funny. My eyes were streaming with tears
from laughing so hard. It was one running interwoven with original jokes,
allowing for each joke to have that much more impact, and the climactic ending
left us both wiping our eyes. I could make the attempt to explain, but I’d have
to go back a couple of years, a couple of YouTube videos, and the entire plot
of a film, including our thoughts on that film. Once you’ve then understood all
of them, only then can I start explaining my story which led up to that one
moment. It’s not necessary to do all of that.
Those moments we tell other people
they should have been there; we need to appreciate more. Those moments are
drenched in history, and proves how bonded you are to your friend(s) for that
one moment to make the most impact. Those moments don’t have to be full of
history – the precise set of circumstances can start blooming at the beginning
of an evening, whether that’ll be at a gathering at someone’s house, or at a night
club, or anywhere really. But even then, a group of friends who’d only even
fully understand that one moment no matter how long it took to set up, need to
appreciate it more when it does.
By failing to recreate the moment
for someone else through storytelling, shows us all how unique those moments
really are, and how practically impossible they will be if attempted to be
recreated again. Those moments are spontaneous, improvised – not maliciously
planned beforehand. No one is following a written script, it’s entirely down to
being within that moment, and enjoying it for the brief time it’s arrives.
With how easy it is to film
everything nowadays, a lot of moments can be captured forever, and shown to
whoever in the future. The next morning, at work, certain moments are passed
around and viewed by many. They’ll understand what’s going on in the video,
that’s for sure – whether with laughter, shock, awe, a video is able to transmit
that over without having to explain it, because explaining what’s happening in
the video is hard.
But, even then, there are some
moments, which weren’t captured by video, and because they weren’t recorded or
documented in any way other than by people’s memories, which hold the most
impact. Those moments that only yourselves know and have experienced, and can
revisit whenever you want via your memories – need to be appreciated more, because
they are genuinely more powerful than that of a video. If the entire night was
filmed, and those precise set of circumstances happened and that one moment was
created, those watching would still be confused, because they wouldn’t
understand the many references or the jokes – they’ll just stare blankly at the
video, maybe letting out a chuckle here and there at the original jokes now and
again.
Of course, even knowing how
difficult it is to tell a story of that nature, you do so anyway, and even
knowing it’s a story you won’t understand, you’ll ask to hear it anyway. It’s
one of those mysteries we’re not going to figure out so automatically fill it
under curiosity – curious as to what happened and curious at how the other
person will react. That phrase, despite being said so many times over, doesn’t
hold any weight, because we will only but push it to one side. Some will accept
the inevitable and therefore move on, and I we’ve all been confronted with that
decision, with which we’ve chosen to stand down and move on – and it’s a rare
occasion.
Thanks for reading
Antony Hudson
(TonyHadNouns)
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